Did I birth an idiot or is this normal???
Every morning it's the same thing. Looking for what my kid did wrong in the time it takes for me to wake up. Not that I sleep in until noon or anything. Most days not even an hour after he gets up.
He knows the rules and will tell them to you. But every morning, even if I have only been sleeping ten minutes passed what he did. There's something that he has gotten into or broken or something.
I've tried everything from trying to wake up before he does to takeing every possible thing he could get into and hideing it or putting it up. Then I've tried with him, grounding, nose on the wall, washing mouth out with soap, time out and chores. Nothing seems to be helping.
I've read books and talked with other Mom's. I've even gone so far as to watch Dr. Phil. (shudders) . I am at a loss when it comes to trying to teach my child that just because I am not watching doesn't mean you can do it. He's even admitted that he'll do something wrong just because it's easier than doing the right thing.
Am I expecting too much from a 6 year old? Do kids ever learn the rules? Is there anyway to cure this?
My Mom said that the only way for kids to do something instantly is to hit them or make them terrified. Well, I niether want my son to fear me or to hit him. But this is an on going battle that jsut doesn't seem to be getting any better.
There are other factors that seem to cause problems, like his father. ZXay usually lives with his father which is a very very diffrent enviorment than my house. If no other thing is diffrent, they have his father's whole family living there. From Grandma down. In a three bedroom house that's kinda crowded. With two med. dogs and three cats. That's a whole lot of people watching out for the kids, and well, they don't.
Actually I can't say that for sure. I only know what my son has told me and the only thing I will say about them is they have a very diffrent style to parenting.
I am at a loss with how to deal with this or make him understand that every morning sucks for both of us because he's done something else. I don't like punishing my kid but at the same point I'm not going to let him get away with everything. I fear that if I just let one thing slide that will be the end and there will be no other choice but to go through this every morning. I keep hopeing that one day i will wake up and not have to punish my son and we can start our day with school work and then playing like normal. Does that ever really happen??? I thought it did but now I'm wondering. I thought it would be diffrent with my son than it was for me growing up. I had tons of siblings and then extras. The older ones always had to look after the younger ones. I was second oldest. We always were keeping everyone in line.
I thought with all the extra attention the one child gets it would be diffrent and he would be able to know the rules and even though I know that at times they will be broken because he's a child, I didn't think every morning it's be the same thing.
I'm still really confused. I'm at a loss for what to do and in everything I know that I have great kid. He's jsut a little dense sometimes. But then again, all kids are.